The Retirement Misalignment of Couples


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Helping move time from finite to infinite (issue 203)

If you only read one sentence:

Most couples don’t struggle with retirement money—they struggle with misaligned expectations about time, identity, and daily life once work ends.

This Week's Feature

The Retirement Misalignment of Couples

📊 Part 3 of the 2025 Year-End RTA Report series

Most couples assume retirement will just work itself out.

The data says otherwise.

One spouse is ready.

The other isn’t.

And nobody is really talking about Tuesday at 10am.

This is the silent misalignment showing up in retirement homes everywhere—and it’s costing couples time, energy, and connection.


This Week’s Action Step (2 minutes)

If you’re partnered (or advising someone who is), answer this—separately:

“What do I picture a typical Tuesday at 10:00 a.m. looking like in retirement?”

Compare answers.
Where they don’t match is where future friction—and opportunity—lives.


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2025 RTA Year-End Report

The 2025 RTA Year-End Report combines data from all Retirement Time Analysis assessments in 2025 to highlight areas of time vulnerability when career ends and retirement life begins and what can be done.


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Avoiding the Retirement Identity Trap

📊 Part 2 of the 2025 Year-End RTA Report series

You may feel like a leader. You may think like an executive.

But once you retire… nobody’s calling you that anymore. And for a lot of people, that reality hits hard.

In the 2025 Retirement Time Analysis results, we found something that should concern every high-achiever out there:

👉 Even in their 60s, most respondents couldn’t clearly describe who they are without their job title.

👉 They had no real post-career identity plan.

👉 No structure. No clarity. No purpose beyond their paycheck.

That’s not retirement. That’s a slow identity crisis.

Start building a future based on purpose, not just a business card.

📥 Read more about it.


The Retirement You Want vs. the Life You’re Living Now

📊 Part 1 of the 2025 Year-End RTA Report series

🚨 Retiring without a lifestyle plan? That’s a recipe for regret.

Everybody’s got a dream about retirement. Yet...

👉 If I looked at your calendar today… would I see any of that in action?

Or would I see a jam-packed schedule full of “someday” habits and zero time for the life you claim to want?

You can’t expect to live a meaningful retirement if you haven’t practiced what that looks like.

🛠 Want to know if you’re ready?

Take the RTA. It’ll show you where you’re aligned—and where you’re lying to yourself.

📥 Read more about it.


Building Habits That Prioritize Time-Optimized Work

💥 You don’t need more time. You need fewer distractions.

📊 Part 3 of the 2025 TMA Report: Build Habits That Create Time-Optimized Work

Here’s the truth most leaders don’t want to admit:

Your people aren’t burned out because they’re lazy.

They’re burned out because they’re never allowed to focus.

Time optimizing isn’t about doing more. It’s about protecting the space to do what actually matters.

Read the full article 👉

Then go create the space that builds momentum.


Time Insight of the Week

Retirement misalignment rarely shows up as conflict on Day One.
It shows up quietly—through mismatched pace, unspoken expectations, and unused time.
Alignment isn’t about agreeing on everything—it’s about seeing the gaps before they cost you years you can’t get back.


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